This is the End

Apr 4, 2017
5 min read

Some regard love as one of the most uplifting experiences one could possibly ever receive in life and others choose to believe that relationships of the romantic kind fulfill a natural urge for companionship that is inherent in all of us. For some relationships are seen as a guiding force to achieving one’s full potential, while others believe them to be partnerships created to grow and learn from and nothing more. Regardless of what is believed about what a relationship is and isn’t we can all come to a mutual agreement that not all relationships are able to withstand the test of time, like most things, eventually they come to an end. To keep a union strong and able to last both members in the relationship must be aware of the fact that all things in life are subject to change and even they themselves are subject to this same change. The couple that is able to keep aware of the changes in both themselves and the other individual is able to learn how to adapt to these changes. However many cannot acquire this skill easily, if they are able to even achieve it at all and if we aren’t able to adapt it becomes very apparent that the nature of this relationship should change. A relationship ending is never an easy thing to deal with; being aware of how one can possible deal with the ending is just as important as what it took to start the relationship to begin with. By being aware of where one stands in respects to parting ways one can figure out how best to transition into this unknown territory.

Natural vs Structured Fallout

When a relationship comes to a conclusion it is merely undergoing a transformation. Those who try to go with a natural relationship fallout tend to flow with connection changes, whether they lead towards a positive or negative outcome. Those whom are able to adjust positively during this transitional period are able to steer the conclusion to a positive outcome as where those who are not able to adjust and remain negative will deal with a negative outcome. No matter what the end results its important to understand that when choosing this particular way of ending a relationship it can easily be seen that there is a glimmer of hope regardless of how large or small it may be. Both partners are able to come together in order to define the nature of future interactions with one another while being conscious of what they both want and need leading to a healthy median between the two. Depending on how positive or negative the interactions with one another are from this point on can sometimes lead to healing and re-mending of the relationship or a complete separation all together. Either way it may flow it is very apparent that this way of handling this particular issue allows for the freedom of choice and unity. A Yang individual could easily see themselves preferring this route that allows them to still keep their spirit of hope, ‘love will find a way‘ remains in tact. A fallout of this variety promotes positivity and growth not only for one's self but for the union as a whole.

However there are those who choose to see the conclusion of a relationship as nothing but that, a literal end to the connection between the two. These types of people take action in order to make sure that the fact is made very clear that it is over and often times passionately defend this position in the name of self preservation, ensuring the benefit of themselves as the major priority. In a structured type of relationship fallout rules are firmly put into place and are expected to be taken as seriously as you would take a law. These rules would explain the exact boundaries and a general sense of what the two can and can not do with one another. When facing this kind of a relationship ending those who desire structure often times embrace this moment without emotion and chooses to utilize there logic focusing more on what is good to do for one's self, even if it means it is bad for the relationship. These types of separations breed the idea that one should stay the course of separations and move forward in life separately from one another, firmly rooted in the belief that “we simply weren’t a right match”. If two people do not share the same common desire for a structured end often times when one disagrees they fee; they are being presented with direction they feel they are being forced to take. The natural route has a sense of freedom and of hope as where the structured role presents the complete opposite. Ultimately when two people don’t see eye to eye in this perspective there is no thought of what is desired by both partner, sometimes this could lead to fear of permanently losing each others, resentment towards each others actions and sometimes even a hate for relationships as a whole.

Heart + Head = Healthy Resolution

For the best results in dealing with the end of a romantic relationship it is highly advisable to choose a path the respectfully acknowledges both the natural and the structured way of dealing with a connection fallout. When both parties are able to come together in order to establish the proper course of action the relationship must take, both individuals are able to establish what is best for themselves. With this natural addition to an otherwise structured system containing rules within it, there seems to be much more of a balance which promotes harmony within ones life. At the end of a union the number one benefit that many can agree with is the ability to focus on themselves, which also allows them to progress in their personal development. As we continue to progress on our development we are able to easily identify the improvements we have made that ultimately make us a better mate then we were before. One begins to take more value in themselves and likewise are able to identify the value we have in our intended mate. A balanced way in which one can handle a relationship fallout is to acknowledge these ideas, yet understands that these same outcomes can be achieved with a partner just as well as they can be done alone is the ideals of a person able to see more than just one angle. Finding a mate that shares the same ideals in life is apart of what makes two compatible with one another but never forget how one reacts during the fallout of a relationship is just as important to know as all of the reasons the relationship was good to start in the first place.